Cheating happens. It’s never pretty and more often than not it leaves relationships in ruins with both parties badly hurt. If you’ve lost your boyfriend or girlfriend to an affair, and you want them back, there are a couple of things that you should know. First we’re going to talk about who cheats more between the sexes and what their motivation is. Then we’ll get down to the business of helping you win your ex back and show you how to recover from cheating.
Who Cheats More?
Is it men or women? Why do people cheat in the first place? Are there different types of cheating? Let’s explore the answers to these burning questions about why people have affairs.
Men cheat because of unmet needs.
Guys who cheat are usually looking for physical satisfaction to meet needs that currently aren’t being satisfied in their relationship. Whether they’re going through a sexual dry spell with their partner or the sex isn’t fulfilling enough, one of the main reasons why guys cheat is because they’re looking for the satisfaction that they’re not getting from their partner.
Men cheat because of physical attraction.
Some men simply can’t help themselves when they see a beautiful local woman. If she’s really irresistible then there are plenty of men who would put their relationship on the line for a chance to be with another woman who they’re strongly attracted to. Even though physical attraction is fleeting, it’s powerful enough to lead men across the world to cheat on their partners.
Women cheat for companionship.
Women commonly cheat when they’re feeling bored, lonely, or unappreciated in their relationship. If they don’t feel that they’re getting the emotional support and fulfillment that they want from their boyfriend it’s not uncommon for them to look for it elsewhere. Women’s emotional needs are a critical component of a relationship, so women make it a priority to see that they’re being met, often at a high stakes cost.
Women cheat for revenge.
Watch out for a woman who has been burned by her man. Ladies around the world know how important a physical relationship is to a man, and if they are seeking revenge they’ll often go straight for where it will hurt him the most – by cheating with another man. Women who have been hurt by their boyfriend often turn to cheating as a quick-fix method of revenge designed to hurt him as much as he’s hurt her.
How To Win Your Ex Back
So many relationships all over the world end too soon, all because of an affair. If you feel like your relationship isn’t ready to be over for good you are probably wishing you could get your ex boyfriend or girlfriend back and make up for your past cheating. If you’re willing to admit your mistakes and do whatever it takes to make it up to them then you might just stand a chance at getting your ex back. Here are the top ways to win your ex back after cheating:
Tell them why they’re important.
If you cheated on your ex it’s pretty much guaranteed that they feel unloved and unappreciated. The first thing you need to do is to let them know how much they mean to you. Don’t hold anything back here, just simply tell them all of the reasons why you can’t imagine your life without them and let them know in specific detail all of the things that they do that you truly love. They need to hear directly from you all of the ways that you value them and why they mean so much to you.
Let them know why it was wrong.
Note that this doesn’t say to let them know why you did it – they aren’t interested in a list of excuses for why you cheated, which anyone can make without really being sorry. The difference is that you need to tell them that you know all of the reasons why cheating was wrong, so they know that you truly understand your wrong doings, and that you know that what you did was the worst possible betrayal of their trust.
Show them what you’re going to do about it.
So you messed up and you feel badly about it – now what? The final step in beginning to make up for an affair is to explain all of the ways you’re going to change and improve your ways. Get input from your ex on the way they’d like to see things done differently if you were to get back together. If you can make a good enough case for yourself for and for how much you love them then you might just stand a chance in being able to get back together with your ex after a cheating scandal in your relationship.